Is Sex Important To Your Relationship?

Is Sex Important To Your Relationship? The Answer May Surprise You By Carlyle Jansen   A common question is whether sex is really that important.  Some folks wonder whether we should place so much value on sex in our relationships or our sexuality, whether single or partnered. Isn’t it just a trivial part of our lives? After all, you can technically survive without sex (although the species…

Ch-ch-changes

We Get Letters! Like it or not, each issue, Tonic Publisher Jamie Bussin gives his thoughts on health and wellness. Ch-ch-changes   The first issue of Tonic Toronto magazine was published and distributed in Spring, 2007. At that time I was still practicing as a commercial litigation lawyer – (perhaps foolishly) attempting to do both at the same time. At that time there were more than…

Non-Binary Gender Identity

Non-Binary Gender Identity Understanding the Continuum By Carlyle Jansen   Gender Identity We all have a gender identity. For many, our internal sense of our gender matches the sex we were assigned at birth. For example, someone born with a penis who was assigned male at birth (AMAB) might still identify as a man.  This person would then be cis-gender, cis meaning “same”. Cisgender folks…

Punishment Workouts

We Get Letters! Like it or not, each issue, Tonic Publisher Jamie Bussin gives his thoughts on health and wellness. Punishment Workouts   Exercise advocates sometimes get a reputation for zealotry. Some have suggested that ‘Crossfitters’ enjoy bragging about their workouts more than the actual workouts. Soul-cyclists and Pelotoners can come off as culty. Even yogis can veer into evangelism. It…

Anxiety and Sex

Anxiety and Sex 6 Strategies for Coping By Carlyle Jansen   Anxiety is a common experience for everyone. In fact, it is a natural human survival mechanism that helps us to identify, pay attention to, and respond to potential threats. On the positive side and in moderate amounts, it can help to motivate us to face dealing with difficult challenges. It can help us to perform better, take…

Abstinence

Abstinence Is it Viable? By Carlyle Jansen   Abstinence is about not having sex with oneself and/ or partner(s). Of course what that means depends on one’s definition of sex and where the line is drawn for the individual. Can abstinence include watching erotic films (and when does a film cross the line from mainstream to erotica/porn)? Does sex include texting a love interest,…

About Nothing

We Get Letters! Like it or not, each issue, Tonic Publisher Jamie Bussin gives his thoughts on health and wellness. I’m going to let you all see behind the curtain. At some point before we go to print with the magazine something happens to me or I’ll have a conversation with somebody and the spark of the idea for my publisher’s note ignites in my brain. The problem is that because of Covid we’re…

Two’s Company, Three’s A…

Two’s Company, Three’s A… Understanding Non-Monogamy and Polyamory By Carlyle Jansen    Most of us were presented with one model of relationship of committing to only one partner. Any deviation has been considered cheating. Monogamy works quite well for many folks. However, this relationship style is not the best choice for everyone. Fortunately, an increase in discourse and resources about…

Welcome (Back)!

We Get Letters! Like it or not, each issue, Tonic Publisher Jamie Bussin gives his thoughts on health and wellness. Welcome (Back)!   Hello. If you’re reading this column for the first time; welcome, I’m Jamie and I’m the publisher and editor in chief of this magazine. And you’ve probably received your copy of this issue of Tonic Magazine with your subscription to the Globe and Mail. You may…

What’s Possible In Limbo

What’s Possible In Limbo   Covid: In the words of the great neo-psychedelic band Tame Impala; “it feels like we only go backwards, baby”. Three steps forward over the Summer, and now two steps back this Fall. It seems that we’re in stasis for an unspecified duration, most of us unable to do much more than live day to day. I say “seems” because that isn’t true at all. I think now is the…