Yoga is the Journey Back to Love
Accepting Oneself to Move Forward
The most important relationship we will ever have in our lives is not with our children, our spouse, or our parents; it is with ourselves. In a world where we crave approval in the form of likes and hearts on our social profiles, this notion of cultivating a beautiful friendship and comfort within ourselves can easily get lost. We can become highly avoidant of nurturing our relationship with self in exchange for the incessant dopamine hits that our brains get from connection with others through technology at any hour of the day.
When I began to practice yoga regularly 16 years ago, I discovered that meditation and physical styles of yoga centre around the interaction of breath and energy. The constant feedback of our energetic capacity is impacted by our thoughts and feelings. Pausing to hold poses or sit in meditation is where the truth of my beliefs and judgments rise up; how I see my body, the kinds of thoughts I form, and who I am being in this world. When I become relaxed and brave enough to lean in and listen, I receive the insightful prods of inquiry about my fears, my anxieties and how I show up in my life.
I have seen how I can separate parts of myself, because of my perceived flaws and deficiencies that would cause me to withhold love from myself. Paying close attention, I have witnessed how I can isolate myself from others by judging similarly. I have been heeding these signals ever since and some days it is messier in the mind and heart than others to adhere to the lessons.
The practice of loving myself was never so clear to me than in my early thirties when I experienced profound loss. I knew that if I were to get through those dark hours, feeling radically deficient, I would have to be kind and patient with myself to move through the grief. This was my job; I was going to have to save myself if I wanted to breathe fully and live again.
A regular yoga practice worked to bring me back into balance when my anxiety of what the future held threatened to swerve me from my healing path. In the quiet moments, prayers of gratitude helped me to see the blessings that still remained. This supported my ability to accept what I cannot change and to create my own truth out of new possibilities instead of remaining stuck with this hand that life dealt me. I would taste this inner insight knowing that life happens for us to evolve and become the people we are meant to be.
I believe nurturing, knowing and giving ourselves our best life is the ultimate form of self-love.
Sari Nisker-Fox is a Toronto based Yoga Teacher, Holistic Life and Business Coach, Wellness Entrepreneur and is the co-founder of www.theyogaweekend.com ,an immersive and unique experiential retreat.